Life is not what happens to you. Life is what you make happen.
The next important step to change is to recognize that you can make the change. Once you accept that you need to make the change, you are ready to move forward to begin taking action and actually do something different. Doing different things will bring different results. You simply cannot make a change in your reality if you continue doing the same thing. (Or thinking the same way.) This may seem obvious as you read this and I hope it does, but most people only want the different results. They aren’t willing to take responsibility for making that change. They want to be given the new circumstances without effort. You can blame our current societal customs for that little gift (careful though, about playing the blame game). We are taught through current big commerce practices, government and in many other aspects of life that we are entitled to happiness, success and anything else we want in life. 
This lie simply cannot continue if we want to truly achieve greatness. Great things don’t happen because someone else does the work for you! The other big lie that we all too often accept is “This is just the way I am.” “I can’t change who I am.” BULL! You are changing who you are every single second of every day. What you need to decide now is if you are finished dying and if you are now ready to start living. Accepting that you are in charge of your life is crucial to your success. So if you are not an infant who needs to be waited on hand and foot and if you are not ready to lie down in the grave and give up, it’s time to start doing something to effect change. YOU CAN DO IT!
It’s time for you to step up and be your own change. It’s time for you to recognize that you don’t have to be a victim in life. You don’t have to give in to weaknesses and you don’t have to quit after failure. Failure is important. It is part of learning in life. If you are afraid to fail then you will never achieve. We simply cannot achieve without failure. Embrace the failure and learn from it. Embrace the fact that you control your reality and only you can change it. Do not accept a reactionary life. Life is not what happens to you. Life is what you make happen.
Now, get out there and start doing! Ignore the excuses. push through the trials. Keep moving forward no matter how hard life pushes against you. There are successful people all around. Why not be one of them?